Dating without intimacy
Without that level of commitment, intimacy is elusive.Even married people can communicate a lack of commitment.Every first kiss until I kissed my wife for the first time, seconds after asking her to be my wife.Before Faye, I had let what I wanted outweigh what I knew God wanted, and what I knew was best for the girl I was dating.I craved intimacy, and I knew I would find it in marriage.So, I punched “marriage” into Google Maps, jumped on the highway, and ignored the speed limits.Getting to know a person in a relationship is a process, and it is best to hold off being intimate at first.
First of all, the primary reason people live together without being married is that one or both parties are unwilling to commit on a higher level.
The cohabiting relationship allows them to check the other person out on a trial basis before deciding if they measure up.
In other words, it’s all about how good the other person is at making them happy and meeting their needs. We just won’t open our hearts to someone we fear might desert or forsake us. That is why marriage and commitment in marriage is so vital to intimacy.
“The pursuit of marriage” was a warm and justifying pullover to wear over my conscience when things started to go too far physically and emotionally. That simple equation would have saved me and the girls I dated all kinds of grief, heartache, and regret. Think about your last first kiss in a relationship (if you’ve already kissed someone). You knew you were risking something, that this wasn’t the safest way to give yourself to someone.
We want to share life with someone of the opposite sex who will be involved and invested in what we’re doing and what we care about.